Spiritual Bypassing: What Do Ethics Have to Do With It?

In my therapy practice, I often hear phrases like “I’m focusing on the positive,” or “I’m staying in my light.” It’s a beautiful intention to hold peace, to stay centered, to not get lost in the noise of the world. But sometimes, beneath that language, I sense something quieter but more concerning: an avoidance of discomfort that looks like spirituality, yet moves us away from responsibility.

Walking a Two Eyed Approach: Silence and Guidance in Healing

I remember one session where I had to break therapy training that says “do not direct”, meaning to avoid leading, interpreting, or offering solutions. This is the model promoted by modern day clinical therapy, that the therapist provides empathy, authenticity, and unconditional positive regard, allowing the client’s own inner resources to guide the process.