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What the Ceremony Cannot Do for Us I have had the night everyone hopes for. More than once. I have also struggled in ceremony in ways I have not since childhood, been met by presences I could not explain and did not wish to, and come to the end of…

What hypnosis reveals about where healing actually lives In January 2024, a team at Stanford published something in Nature Mental Health that should have been bigger news than it was. They recruited eighty people living with fibromyalgia, screened them for hypnotic ability, and deliberately excluded the naturally gifted, keeping only…

The Distance We Mistake for Healing Let me concede the ground where the critique is right, because everything after it depends on that concession. There are relationships a person should leave. Where there is violence, ongoing abuse, addiction that pulls everyone near it under, manipulation that rewrites your sense of…

Triggers for Parents of Estranged Adult Children: Why the Hour After Matters Most A woman I have worked with for some time told me about an ordinary Tuesday in a grocery store. She was standing in the produce section, and a few feet away was a mother about her age…

Abuse by a Family Member: Why We Tolerate It, and How We Stop I’ve spent a lot of time listening to people describe being hurt by the people they’re supposed to be safest with. A mother whose adult son speaks to her with open contempt. A woman in her fifties…

The Phrase That Keeps You Stuck I was sitting with a woman recently who had just come through the collapse of a business partnership. She had been overridden, dismissed, and eventually pushed out of something she helped build. She told me the whole story with remarkable clarity — the early…