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Triggers for Parents of Estranged Adult Children: Why the Hour After Matters Most

By Wallace Murray
August 5, 2026
Family Health, Relational Healing, Relationships
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Triggers for Parents of Estranged Adult Children: Why the Hour After Matters Most A woman I have worked with for some time told me about an ordinary Tuesday in a grocery store. She was standing in the produce section, and a few feet away was a mother about her age…

Abuse by a Family Member: Why We Tolerate It, and How We Stop

By Wallace Murray
July 21, 2026
Adolescents, Family Health, Relational Healing, Relationships
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Abuse by a Family Member: Why We Tolerate It, and How We Stop I’ve spent a lot of time listening to people describe being hurt by the people they’re supposed to be safest with. A mother whose adult son speaks to her with open contempt. A woman in her fifties…

The Phrase That Keeps You Stuck

The Phrase That Keeps You Stuck I was sitting with a woman recently who had just come through the collapse of a business partnership. She had been overridden, dismissed, and eventually pushed out of something she helped build. She told me the whole story with remarkable clarity — the early…

The Permission to Want: Why You Hide What You Really Desire

By Wallace Murray
July 16, 2026
Counseling, Emotional Regulation, Relational Healing, Relationships
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The Permission to Want: Why You Hide What You Really Desire Preparing a client for a retreat last spring, I sat across from a woman who had spent twenty years on her path. Meditation every morning. Years of training in energy work. A depth of presence you could feel through…

The Open Heart in a World That Ends

The Open Heart in a World That Ends There is a particular stillness a person arrives with when they have decided, somewhere they cannot quite name, that the safest way through their life is to want less of it. They rarely say this out loud. It shows up instead as…

The Quiet Cost of Being Loved Conditionally

By Wallace Murray
July 7, 2026
Adolescents, Relational Healing, Relationships
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The Quiet Cost of Being Loved Conditionally A few years ago I had a client tell me, mid-session, that she didn’t think she’d ever actually wanted the career she’d built. She said it the way people say things they’ve never said out loud before, carefully, like she was checking it…

The Parent You’re Angry At Is Not the Problem

By Wallace Murray
July 7, 2026
Family Health, Relational Healing, Relationships
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The Parent You’re Angry At Is Not the Problem There is a pattern I encounter often enough in the therapy room that I have come to expect it. Someone comes in carrying years of dense, complicated frustration toward one of their parents. They can describe it in precise detail: the…

The Kindness We Mistake for Virtue: Niceness, Boundaries, and Honest Care

The Kindness We Mistake for Virtue: Niceness, Boundaries, and Honest Care There is a particular kind of exhaustion I have come to recognize across years of sitting with people in therapy. It does not come from overwork, though people often arrive believing that is what it is. It comes from…

What Silence Knows: The Healing That Happens When We Stop Talking

By Wallace Murray
June 4, 2026
Ancestral Healing, Emotional Regulation, Relationships
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Healing Beyond Talk Therapy: What Silence Does That Words Cannot There is a moment I have come to recognize in therapeutic work. It does not announce itself. The person across from me has just touched something real, something that cost them something to reach, and then they go quiet. Not…

The Opposite of Addiction Is Connection: Why Relational Healing Matters

How Society Keeps People Addicted: Addiction, Disconnection, and Relational Healing Addiction is often described as a problem of substances, willpower, or brain chemistry. We are told that people become addicted because drugs are powerful, because pleasure overwhelms reason, or because certain individuals lack discipline. There is some truth in the…

Author: Wallace Murray

Triggers for Parents of Estranged Adult Children: Why the Hour After Matters Most

Abuse by a Family Member: Why We Tolerate It, and How We Stop

The Phrase That Keeps You Stuck

The Permission to Want: Why You Hide What You Really Desire

The Open Heart in a World That Ends

The Quiet Cost of Being Loved Conditionally

The Parent You’re Angry At Is Not the Problem

The Kindness We Mistake for Virtue: Niceness, Boundaries, and Honest Care

What Silence Knows: The Healing That Happens When We Stop Talking

Triggers for Parents of Estranged Adult Children: Why the Hour After Matters Most

Abuse by a Family Member: Why We Tolerate It, and How We Stop

The Phrase That Keeps You Stuck

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