The Quiet Cost of Being Loved Conditionally A few years ago I had a client tell me, mid-session, that she didn’t think she’d ever actually wanted the career she’d built. She said it the way people say things they’ve never said out loud before, carefully, like she was checking it…
I remember one session where I had to break therapy training that says “do not direct”, meaning to avoid leading, interpreting, or offering solutions. This is the model promoted by modern day clinical therapy, that the therapist provides empathy, authenticity, and unconditional positive regard, allowing the client’s own inner resources…



