The Distance We Mistake for Healing Let me concede the ground where the critique is right, because everything after it depends on that concession. There are relationships a person should leave. Where there is violence, ongoing abuse, addiction that pulls everyone near it under, manipulation that rewrites your sense of…
The Phrase That Keeps You Stuck I was sitting with a woman recently who had just come through the collapse of a business partnership. She had been overridden, dismissed, and eventually pushed out of something she helped build. She told me the whole story with remarkable clarity — the early…
The Kindness We Mistake for Virtue: Niceness, Boundaries, and Honest Care There is a particular kind of exhaustion I have come to recognize across years of sitting with people in therapy. It does not come from overwork, though people often arrive believing that is what it is. It comes from…




