A “Two-Eyed” Approach

I work with a two-eyed lens: one eye on shared evidence from modern medicine and nervous-system science; one eye on the relational, cultural, and spiritual dimensions of healing. 

The ceremony sits right at that intersection. It respects set and setting, integrates meaning, and invites in relational type support. Let AI help with logistics while we cultivate the distinctly human arts that make a life: tenderness, boundaries, humor, awe. If this stirs a quiet yes, try one practice for a week. Keep it simple. Track what shifts when your day has a beginning and an end your body can feel. 

If you’d like something tailored, solo, partnership, or community, I’m here to help design a ceremony that fits your actual life, not an idealized one. In a world full of generative tools, ceremony is how we generate ourselves.

I do my best to follow the principle of “two-eyed seeing”: honoring multiple ways of knowing without collapsing one into the other. One eye values Indigenous and ancestral wisdoms, relationality with land and community, ritual, and reverence. The other eye values psychological science, ethical standards, supervision, and measurable change. Together, we see in depth.

Two-eyed seeing invites humility. It asks me to approach traditions not as a consumer but as a guest; to remember that personal healing is braided with communal well-being; to measure progress not by how elevated I feel, but by how I am kind and loving. And I am far from perfect with this, it is a continuing path.

If You’re Actively Searching Right Now, here’s a pragmatic checklist to use before you join a program, retreat, or ceremony:

• Interview the guide. Three questions: How do you vet readiness? What’s your protocol when someone becomes dysregulated? What integration support do you provide?

• Check references. Ask to speak with past participants who are not hand-picked super-fans.

• Clarify scope and limits. What do they not do? How do they refer out?
• Ask about money transparently. What’s included? Refunds? Scholarships? Hidden upsells?
• Look for a community container. Peer groups, integration circles, or mentorship structures that outlast the event.
• Plan your integration in advance. Schedule therapy, time off, and somatic practices before you go. Put support on your calendar, not just the experience.

If any provider makes you feel ashamed for asking these questions, thank them for the information and move on. Stay focused on practices that actually build depth, even if you follow one text or lineage to sit with for a year. Depth grows in committed attention.

My Commitment as a Therapist

I work at the pace of relationships. That means we move slowly enough for your nervous system to trust the process, and fast enough to honor your yearning. I will never promise overnight transformation. I will promise to help you turn revelations into daily practice, to collaborate with and support you to the best of my ability, to respect the traditions that inform your path, and to keep my responsibility to do my best while honouring your responsibility for how far we go, at the centre of all of our work. 

To be clear, I am not against the digital age; I am against pretending that it can parent us into maturity. The most transformative work I have witnessed lives in the spaces between people: in careful listening, in mutual accountability, in the courage to stay. And in the simple fact that I am human in all of my imperfections. 

And when in doubt, return to the relational ground: your breath, your body, your people, your place. The path becomes genuine when it becomes shared, when your healing increases your capacity for love, for truth, and for responsibility. That’s how you’ll know you’ve moved beyond the algorithm: your life, not your feed, will show the change.

Slow is sacred, and today counts. So, keep going.